About a month ago I wrote about my weight loss journey. It’s one that’s been a long time a coming and I’m good with that. You can read more about it here. The weight’s slowly been coming off. I knew that’s what would happen, it’s just the way my body is. That isn’t even the thing that’s annoying me the most, the most annoying part of it are people voicing their judgmental opinions and contacting me trying to sell me something.
I didn’t ask for suggestions. I didn’t post a picture of my breakfast only for someone to tell me that there’s a better food I could be eating. I didn’t ask for a critique. Why, if I didn’t ask for advice or an opinion, am I getting an opinion from every Tom, Dick and Sally out there?
I’ve been thinking about the sense of entitlement this community of well-meaning Internet users feel to voice their opinion when no one has asked for it. I don’t know why we do it, but I truly do believe that it comes from a good place. I don’t think that Sally Jo (who is a completely fictional character for the sake of this story) is sending me a private message about a miracle supplement that will help me melt the fat away to be offensive or hurtful. I think she genuinely wants to help and for that I’m thankful. I don’t think that someone I knew years ago, who randomly reaches out to me because she’s read my post about losing weight and has a great protein powder for me to use, is doing it out of any ill intention. I simply think that since the era of computer screen communities started, we’ve all become accustomed to saying whatever fits our fancy. It’s one thing to have something come up naturally in a face to face conversation; you have the personal relationship there to begin with. It’s something completely different to reach out to someone you barely have any contact with and try to tell them there’s a better way to do something. The personal relationship isn’t there.
A line has been crossed and we all do it. There’s something to be said about manners, about minding your own business. It’s not just something I’ve noticed as a writer who willingly puts herself out there. I’ve seen it on friends’ Facebook posts. I’ve noticed it on my own personal Facebook posts that are not available for all to see. Heck, I’ve done it myself. It’s time for a change, friends. The time has come.